I read Seth Godin`s blog every day.
Why? Simply because he writes or blogs every day. I suppose he, like the rest of us, have priorities and he makes writing a blog post every day part of his routine. It got me thinking about priorities. One thing I cannot do is understand what Seth Godin`s day is really like. I don’t know the man. Clearly he has time to fit blogging into his routine and it appears that he does make it a priority.
I am stuck.
I love to write as you may well know and I am working hard at getting better at it. I love my career as a designer, project manager and team leader. I love my job in that career and most of all I love my wife who is my support system, my confidant and calls me on my bulls**t. That is why I respect her so much. She is honest, true and highly intelligent and has taught me invaluable lessons on how to treat people and situations.
On Monday night we had a conversation about how our weeks were shaping up. We are both busier that we need to be taking into consideration personal projects, our work lives and social endeavors. My wife did something that I will likely not soon forget. It was a small, simple gesture and that`s why it struck me as so monumental. She did it without a second thought and regardless of whether my interpretation of the moment is correct or not is of no further consequence.
Here we go.
I said to her that on Thursday night I will likely need to work late in order to finish a proposal that is due on Friday morning. The priorities I set for myself put me in the position that I will likely burn the midnight oil this week several times to get it done to ensure the response has real, relevant and clear intent. Sure, we can just use old boilerplate content and throw a fee at it but that`s not how we roll, is it? Surely, we have learned that and after all how responsible would that be?
So, what did she do?
In a very nonchalant way she said ”Oh, then I can change my plans and meet some colleagues for dinner after all.” I am sure you can guess how I took that. She prioritized our relationship over a business dinner and only agreed to commit after I suggested that I needed the time to work. I kind of felt like a s**t. Yeah, in reality it’s no big deal in the grand scheme of things. I know. But, it was a simple gesture that resonated with me.
That brings me back to Seth Godin.
Seth’s post today (yes I am writing this on Valentine’s Day) is about obligations that we agree to and our responsibility to how we choose to respond. Seth is very good in saying a lot with very little. That’s one of the reasons why I like reading his material so much.
What I took from his post was that we all decide what means the most to us in life and as life changes so do our priorities but it’s the constants in our lives that sometimes get the short end of the stick. My wife is the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I love her with all my heart. I suppose that’s why this post took priority over work this very, very early morning.
Oh, and yes, of course I told her all this as well.
Well, back to it.
What are the priorities in your life that you sometimes overlook?
Do you have any suggestions or strategies on how to prioritize what you do?
What can we do better prioritize those constants in our lives?